From Home to Assisted Living
Some transitions are exciting, some transitions are scary and some are harder than others, but all transitions come with at least some uncertainty. Transitioning your loved one into a nursing home or assisted living situation can be one of the most difficult changes for everyone involved. This is not just a transition for the individual who will be moving, but also for those who are making the decisions about when, where and how this will all take place.
Besides the obvious question, "Am I doing the right thing?" there are so many other factors to consider:
- Will your loved one be well taken care of?
- Will they be better off than if they were to live at home or with you?
- Does your loved one need an assisted living facility or some other type of senior care?
- Will you be able to find a place that is close enough, clean enough and interactive enough for your loved one?
- Can we find affordable care?
- What's the difference between assisted living and a nursing home?
- How can you help to make the transition a smooth one?
- How do you feel about this change?
- How do you deal with the guilt of moving your loved one into assisted living or a nursing home?
- How can you and others in your family get on the same page and feel comfortable with your decisions?
As a coach specializing in transitions, I work with many people who have to answer these questions and hope that they are doing the right thing by their loved one. It can be daunting, but it doesn't have to feel impossible.
It's important to seek out professionals who are familiar with and can answer many of the questions you are sure to have. There are services all across the country that can help you avoid some of the common mistakes and help you make the right decisions about the care your loved one currently needs and may need in the future. For example, did you know that an assisted living facility can not provide any medical care? Assisted living communities are for those seniors who want an independent lifestyle but who may need assistance for their individual needs such as bathing, meals, dressing and transportation.
If you live in Los Angeles, California, one such service is Senior Resources, Inc. They are a San Fernando based organization dedicated to helping seniors and their families get the best professional senior care management when they need it. The people at Senior Resources are expert placement advisors for assisted living communities. They do not represent any one assisted living community, so your loved one will be matched with the living situation that best fits their needs and their Placement Program is no charge to the client. If you live outside the Los Angeles area, there are many other similar services.
These services are great resources and can be instrumental in making the transition a smooth one.
It's also important to take care of yourself in the process. This may include working with a coach to help guide you through the emotions, guilt and fear you may be feeling.
A coach can help you to keep things on an even keel with the rest of the family and the loved one who has to make the transition.
A coach can help your loved one to make the transition with a sense of dignity and control...which makes the transition easier for everyone.
By taking these steps, you can make what is inherently a difficult and stressful transition easier, less stressful and more dignified for everyone involved. In turn, this will enable the family to enjoy the precious time left with their loved one...and that's the ultimate gift.